As women and wives we are to apply and grow in these traits, and also  train our daughters in the same. This is a very large challenge in our “visually oriented” and “liberated” society. We are constantly bombarded with loud, bold, aggressive women, and with very revealing, showy clothing. As “pilgrims,  strangers, and aliens” (l Chr. 29:15, Heb. 11:13-16), where do we Christian women stand? The verses in l Pet., place little importance on outward adorning, but rather places the focus on the inward person. l Tim. 2:9 confirms this, saying, “In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with plaited hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly clothing . .”  What do you consider as “modest apparel”?  If one simply compares themselves with what they see in the world around them, then I’m afraid our standard of modesty will leave a great deal to be desired. I believe our standards will rise as we submit these areas to the Lord and grow in our walk with Him. When we desire to be pleasing to our Father in heaven, above all else, it will no longer matter if we do not fit in with popular trends and we will find much peace and simplicity in modest clothing. But the more we place ourselves in the world, the harder it will be to fulfill these verses and maintain a content attitude.
     What I would like to look at is the inner attitude that brings about our outward changes. The before quoted verses mention “chaste conduct, a gentle and quiet spirit, and shamefacedness and sobriety.” These qualities are almost unknown in our society. We notice the attention-getter. Often we are attention-getters ourselves. Who wants to be the quiet one in the corner that gets overlooked? But this isn’t Biblical and it didn’t use to be normal. In one of the Little House books, By the Shores of Silver Lake, Laura Ingalls’ mother told her and her sisters to “speak nicely in low voices and have gentle manners and always be ladies. She also said, “a lady never did anything that could attract attention.”  Doesn’t that sound strange? This is a good example of Biblical behavior in a woman and quite foreign to many of us.
     As wives and therefore “older” women - some of us : ), we also need to be living out Titus 2:4,5 . . . “that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the Word of God be not blasphemed.” In these verses, and the others mentioned, there are several words that describe a godly woman’s behavior.
     1. Chaste  means clean, pure, modest. When our thoughts and words are chaste it will also be reflected in our behavior and apparel. Do we speak with crudeness and sarcasm? Do we dress to reveal and tempt?
     2. Gentle  means meek and humble. Meekness in not seeking after what we think we deserve or is rightfully ours. As sinners we “deserve” nothing.
     3. Humbleness recognizes that all we have and any talents or abilities that we posses are from the Lord.
     4. Quiet means still, undisturbed, peaceable. Are we constantly involved in social activities and entertainment? Do we know how to be content at home, working quietly with our hands at the numerous activities that make up being “keepers at home”? If our lives are a whirlwind of activities, even though good, where will be the time needed to spend with God? Distractions clutter the mind and remove God’s presence.
     5. Sobriety, sober, and discreet are very similar words basically meaning  self-controlled. This quality is best learned young because, as many of us know, it’s quite difficult to learn later in life and far more costly. When a person learns to work for what they want, to patiently wait, to control the tongue, mind, and body, their contentment will come from the Lord and not from worldly pleasures.
     6. Shamefacedness  is an interesting word. It means bashfulness toward men and reverence toward God. Bashfulness toward men is being modest and reserved, quite the opposite from the aggressive, flirting we see in our society. Reverence toward God is understanding, in the heart, who God is and how very great He is. It is having a healthy fear of dissappointing Him or shaming Him by our behavior.
     These are the qualities of a godly woman. We grow in them as we grow in  God. If we live with a foot in the world and a foot in God’s camp, it causes us to compromise and become stagnate. We become like the church of Laodicea - luke warm - and God spued them out! These principles of Christianity are no different from any other. What it comes down to is this: how serious are we about our faith in God? Setting our face fully toward the Lord isn’t always easy, but if we acknowledge Him in all our ways, He shall direct our paths.